Love, Sex and the Brain – Part 1

Origins of Love and Romance

Loving relationships and romance are accepted today as an essential component of a positive sexual experience. It is, however, a fairly recent development; most probably dating back to the late Middle Ages where it originated with the troubadours and was then adopted by the reigning classes.

Romanticism originated in the Romance region in France and this was the dawn of a new dimension in relationships and sex. Greek and Roman times saw very little romance in relationships and sexual practices. It was almost like hunters pursuing their prey.

Although this kind of thing still exists today, it is universally accepted that processes that develop insights and understanding can make relationships so much more exciting and creative. At the Kobus Neethling Institute, we refer to this as Whole Brain Thinking.


There are countless benefits of utilizing whole-brain knowledge. In using this approach to life, you will find benefits in:

  • parenthood
  • education
  • ministry
  • management
  • leadership
  • politics
  • sport
  • communication
  • etc.

It is in the field of sexuality and relationships, however, that knowledge of whole-brain functioning has had the most important practical results. Sexual problems and disturbed relationships can have very negative consequences for the persons involved – much more far-reaching than merely on a personal level. A relationship between husband and wife or boyfriend and girlfriend that lacks vitality can prove to be destructive to careers and professional lives too. You drag your poor relationships along with you and this is manifested in:

  • fear
  • a feeling of incompetence
  • anger
  • pain
  • heartache
  • negativity
  • a feeling of helplessness
  • listlessness
  • depression

One does not need previous training or special skills to engage in sex or to have a relationship with someone. However, in order to make sex and relationships truly meaningful, and to avoid this becoming a meaningless habit or purely addictive, it helps to know more about the whole-brain approach to sexuality and relationships.


In the next blog about whole-brain relationships, we’re going to have a look at the brain and how its inner workings affect our relationships.


From the Book “Love, Sex and the Brain” by Dr. Kobus Neethling and Dr. Raché Rutherford

Contact us if you want to engage with us, or to find out what training we have available for becoming whole-brain specialists.

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